Travel, Parenting, Lifestyle.

Do Something Different

This was for Eid Day. However it’s something we can try at anytime.

This eid I decided my heart beats differently. I decided I don’t have the same drumbeat as everyone else. I also decided that this is not always a bad thing. I get asked, but what of your children? They are learning from you? I hear, “your son is just like you when he does XYZ…” when he does something different from the norms of the society.”
I make sure to tell him, they tell you you’re like me because your mama always chose her path and spoke about it with pride. I found no reason to hide anything, ever. Don’t you ever hide anything either? Be proud in your choices, Keep being yourself.
So, on this Eid, my message to all the parents and all the children is: do a lot of judgment-free listening and you young-uns ask a lot of questions free from pre-conceived notions about your parents. About how they grew up, how they’ve lived, and why they choose to live the way they do now.

Be each other’s strength because there’s a whole world out there ready to knock us down all the damn time we don’t need to do it to each other. Try it and see how your world changes for the better. This Eid let’s do something different.

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Travel, Parenting, Lifestyle.

Grief and Loss

Early July and mid-August are the hardest times of year for me. It’s not as though I plan for it. I would rather not remember every tiny detail but all of it comes rushing back. Such is grief. My nephew was supposed to come back from his trip, and we were supposed to plan for his next semester. My son would be 17 this year. He passed away in the quiet of the night on a warm August night. Now, I instinctively wake up in the middle of the night almost every night to check on my boys. At this point I don’t even ealize I’m doing it. It’s a part of my subconscious.
I could write all night about grief or what I miss about my baby and my nephew. In the end it’s nothing you guys haven’t heard or read before. What’s important to note here is that there are two separate incidents; one from 14 years a go and one from a few years a go and the pain is exactly the same.
The lesson: there is no time period for how fast or slow one deals with loss of a loved one. Don’t give yourself or others a time limit. Don’t be too hard on yourself, this process is difficult. However you do get used to it and you do find a way to learn to deal with it in your own way.

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