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Let’s keep falling out of line

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My Nonsense

Okay, so my life just took a shitty turn guys. You get to a point where you think you’ve lived through the drama, and that stuff doesn’t bother you. You tell it to bugger off. At this point in my life, I thought my job was to help other people with my drama-filled experienced. Here I am, though, completed kicked in the knees by my past and present. I’m sitting here thinking, “I have done this. I HAVE DONE THIS SO DAMN MANY TIMES.” This should not rattle me. This is new, though. In some weird, unknown way, this is new. This repeats on me, why? How? I’d like to think through no fault of my own, but it repeats continuously. Today, right now, it has a tanginess, and I cannot explain.

Today, this day. I never thought I would have to deal with this. I should have thought better. Known better. I don’t understand why this is even important. I am one of those people who take things. I don’t go around being emotional and illogical about issues. I think, and then I decide what my move will be. Today, I thought and then I decided I just don’t want to deal.

My entire life has been dealing with something like this. Y’all know what I’m talking about? I know you’ve been there.

When people won’t cut you a break, and you know they know they should. Yeah, that. I’m worn out by the drama that’s always been here and I’ve always been prepared for it.

I think its because I am not ready to hold my tongue, or my fists for that matter. Been doing that for far too long. Feels good to admit that.

Violence is bad kids.

Sidenote: a long time someone in Turkey gave me a crown made of roses and I pretended to be a princess for the rest of the day.

Thank you for listening to my nonsense.

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Do Something Different

This was for Eid Day. However it’s something we can try at anytime.

This eid I decided my heart beats differently. I decided I don’t have the same drumbeat as everyone else. I also decided that this is not always a bad thing. I get asked, but what of your children? They are learning from you? I hear, “your son is just like you when he does XYZ…” when he does something different from the norms of the society.”
I make sure to tell him, they tell you you’re like me because your mama always chose her path and spoke about it with pride. I found no reason to hide anything, ever. Don’t you ever hide anything either? Be proud in your choices, Keep being yourself.
So, on this Eid, my message to all the parents and all the children is: do a lot of judgment-free listening and you young-uns ask a lot of questions free from pre-conceived notions about your parents. About how they grew up, how they’ve lived, and why they choose to live the way they do now.


Be each other’s strength because there’s a whole world out there ready to knock us down all the damn time we don’t need to do it to each other. Try it and see how your world changes for the better. This Eid let’s do something different.


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Grief and Loss

Early July and mid-August are the hardest times of year for me. It’s not as though I plan for it. I would rather not remember every tiny detail but all of it comes rushing back. Such is grief. My nephew was supposed to come back from his trip, and we were supposed to plan for his next semester. My son would be 17 this year. He passed away in the quiet of the night on a warm August night. Now, I instinctively wake up in the middle of the night almost every night to check on my boys. At this point I don’t even ealize I’m doing it. It’s a part of my subconscious.
I could write all night about grief or what I miss about my baby and my nephew. In the end it’s nothing you guys haven’t heard or read before. What’s important to note here is that there are two separate incidents; one from 14 years a go and one from a few years a go and the pain is exactly the same.
The lesson: there is no time period for how fast or slow one deals with loss of a loved one. Don’t give yourself or others a time limit. Don’t be too hard on yourself, this process is difficult. However you do get used to it and you do find a way to learn to deal with it in your own way.

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Dawood Global Foundation Donates #LFWheels

Dawood Global Foundation #LFWheels LADIESFUND Wheelchair distribution of 116 wheelchairs to SIUT today. Handover was presided over by GM Abbasi, who spoke about SBP’s commitment to facilitate handicapable, and attended by four members of Bank Islami. Wheelchairs were donated by Tara Uzra Dawood personally, Bank Islami and several LADIESFUND members in the names of loved ones.


Honored to be a part of this wonderful organization, and really looking forward to getting to know the inspiring ladies in this team.

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Birthday Stories

My older one turned nine a couple of days ago, his friend and brother were forced to pose for pics.


I’m not traditionally a big birthday “todoer”. When my kids first became aware that birthdays were a thing they used to want elaborate cakes and care about who was there and who wasn’t. I didn’t argue and let them have it. Then questions like. “What is the big deal about being a year older?” started to come up. I loved that they were questioning things and wondering about life. After all, would they even be my children if they didn’t question a norm or two? This year both of them opted for a simple celebration. The younger one wanted a plain chocolate cake, he’s not a people person so he just wanted few close family members. This guy wanted just a friend or two.
Slowly, they didn’t care so much.
I’m realizing that on the most part the extravagance and over-the-top birthdays are parents wanting to celebrate their children rather than children wanting to celebrate themselves.
My children’s celebrations look very different from mine so I let them have theirs. Well, most of the time. I’m not perfect.

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I Did Not Have The Time

This describes me and how I feel. How I write, how I express myself. Who I am in general. You want to get to know me, you will have to take the time. You want to learn about me, take the time. You want to understand my point of view take out the time. Otherwise you will always wonder and never understand me.
Not understanding me is not such a bad thing, not everyone is meant to know everyone well. Most people are just travelers in our lives. However, if you choose not to be; it will take time.

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I Am A Bad Mom

I am a bad mother because I didn’t choose the same struggle as others. I’m a bad mother because on some instances I chose comfort for myself over faking martyrdom. I’m a bad mother because I’m not a man and I cannot make choices accordingly.

I’m a bad mother because I can’t always do everything the way society expects me to. I’m a bad mother because I speak of wanting a life of my own. I’m a bad mother because I want to choose a life for my children based on what “I” think is best for them and not what others deem appropriate. I’m a bad mother because others don’t see my struggles and have made up their minds about who I am. I’m a bad mother because after taking care of my children, husband, home, and other family members and working for years, months, weeks without complaining I’m exhausted and want to take a break. That break costs me, that break is considered laziness. That rest and time out is a sign of my disinterest.

It’s Just Me!

Honestly, I don’t even want to make the same choices. My world is differently layered that cannot be explored by the naked eye.

My choices make me a regular person. Just a person; Not good or bad.

Just like the children’s father’s parenting has never been questioned my parenting shouldn’t be questioned as well.

The reality we live in is rude and mind numbing.

It feels as though women are gripped by the throat, that grip ever so slightly being tightened and loosened depending on what actions are approved or disapproved by the world around with no consequence to others.

Anytime we express a thought or “feelings” they are simply explained away as emotions that have no place in a real conversation or the real world. Which, now we know as educated, informed individuals is the farthest from the truth. Expressing our emotions is one of the most valuable things one can do in any relationship, whether it be a personal one or work one. Of course the limitations and etiquettes differ.

Not expressing ourselves and denying others the same opportunity is what has landed us here.

In summation, I’m a bad mother because I’m Human, I’m a bad mother because I’m a woman.

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Childhood Trauma

Dr. Peter Lavine is a Psychologist and an author who writes about child Trauma, how to recognize it and how to help your heal from it.
No, I’m not going through a life crisis that I’m spilling all over social media in a passive-aggressive manner. These feelings are real and they are with me all the time just like they are with you all the time. I feel we are afraid to let our emotions out because we are afraid of being judged or called out on them for one reason or another.
Of course, not everyone is feeling the way we are. So, not everyone is going to agree with our emotions. That doesn’t mean they are a burden on anyone. It’s a “take it or leave it” type situation. If my feelings are too much for you don’t “take” them. But I should be allowed to express them and not be penalized for having them. Just like you should be allowed to feel however you want to feel.
I for one, am here and listening.

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Never Again

Let’s decide now what we want for ourselves and say never again. There have been too many times where I have let others make decisions for me. There have been too many times where I have been given in because I thought I was making a sacrifice to make someone I care about happy. That’s what we like to believe. The truth is that we are weak and are being taken advantage of. If the other person is not making the same kind of sacrifices and not changing their life for you the way you are for them to make you happy then stop and reevaluate everything that you are doing. This doesn’t just apply to men. This applies to all relationships in our lives. Move on, you are worth more.

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Never Meet your heroes

You know how they say never meat your heroes. This, this is a perfect example of it. He was one of those very few people who had stood up for every and any cause that was just and any human who was oppressed. He was doing the same for the people of Palestine.
He got hate for so many of his beliefs and stance in his life but he has never back down. That made him such an admirable human. This time he has been scared away.
I’m saddened and disappointed at the condition that our world is in that people can be bought and silenced for speaking up against clear discrimination and genocide. I’m shocked that we live in a world that a human being who has done nothing but good in the world has to eat his words and apologize and take back his support for the innocent and side with the criminals and mass murderers.
@markruffalo no sir the issue is not about antisemitism, or even Hammas being a terrorist organization because the people who are taking innocent lives everyday decided to call them that and you and people like you oblige.


The problem now is that people like you are in our way. If you can’t help then admit it and get out of the way. You are not an ally. If you are not standing with the innocent and the displaced then you are standing with the killers and the murderer. And I’m sorry but we don’t need your carefully curated words to make us feel better. This goes for all of you. From now on just shut up and try not to make anymore “safe” statements. We got it, you support the genocide. You’re silence made it clear enough. We don’t need you to open your mouth and distract us from the cause.

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