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The Falcon And The Winter Soldier: Getting It Right

Okay, so those of you who are watching The Falcon and the Winter Soldier step over here with me in this corner because we have much to talk about. Can I just say that this is giving me life right now? As dead as I thought The Avengers universe was after endgame, I feel like we are returning to life. Let’s be real for a second; I never saw this show as anything. I felt that Bucky Barnes was really not much of a character without Steve Rogers. He needed Steve Rogers’ Captain America by his side to bring him to life. I love the Idea of Sam Wilson as Captain America. I love the idea of an African American Captain America in today’s world. However, we hadn’t seen enough of Bucky and Sam together to know if they could be the team we needed.

Then we saw them together in the second episode. If I cant have Tony and Steve then for the love of everything beautiful in this universe I will take Sam and Bucky bickering all day long.

While this is filling a much-needed Avenger-sized whole in my heart this show is so much more than that. The topic of racism and blindness to racism in our society is presented in such a beautiful way. Every-time I get done watching it, I want to hug the writers.  Of course, the delivery from the actors deserves huge credit. As a writer though, I’m going to go ahead and give a bigger shoutout to Derek Kolstad (if the rumors are true I guess) and I really should say, Ed Brubaker.

Did you catch the scene when Bucky shows up out of nowhere to berate Wilson for giving up the Shield? Wilson has got enough shit to deal with. He doesn’t need the guilt. Did you see the whole episode summed up in that one scene?  Bucky says, “you had no right to give up that shield.” The response, “this is what you’re not gonna do. You’re not gonna come here in your overextended life and tell me about my rights.”

Later on, we see them arguing on the street and cops gather around them.

More than a hundred-year-old white man telling a black man what he can and cannot do no matter how well-meaning, does not sit well. The cops automatically assume that Sam is in the wrong, Bucky gets riled up because they are disrespecting Sam yet it doesn’t faze Sam (at least on the surface, remember he has real shit to deal with) in the slightest. Hell, we were riled up. We wanted to punch the TV. Bucky wants to talk to Sam about *rights*. These are those rights that he didn’t want to talk about.

This show is needed, these issues need to be talked about. I can’t even begin to know what it feels like to walk the streets for black people but I have been walking around a brown woman in a hijab and that hasn’t been fun at all.

People don’t want to be saved by anyone that doesn’t fit their own description of what a hero should look like. That’s why it’s difficult for people like Sam Wilson to accept that mantle. That’s why its so easy for people like Bucky to accuse him of doing something wrong because they don’t understand the undeniable burden of proof that comes with being someone who is always considered an outsider.  Someone who is always suspicious to the naked eye, people do a double take because they just don’t know if they can trust you. These are all those feelings that someone like Bucky or any other white person wouldn’t have to grapple with.

How do you make a decision like this? How do you explain to the world that you cant be her savior because she doesn’t want you.

I know, I know its just a show, calm down. Life, art..art, life. Who can tell anymore.

The issue is greater than two people who have super strength and can fly around. It’s about two people whom society is refusing to accept. Two people who are trying to do right by the world but the world sees it very differently. The only person who seems to be doing anything right and has all the answers is the one with blonde hair and blue eyes. Coincidence? You know it. Of course in the world of the comics there is so much more to John Walker and we are not exploring that side of the show today. We don’t even know where they are taking that storyline. I am super intrigued by the way, and cant wait to find out but speaking strictly in terms of the topic on hand, this show is getting everything right.

P. S. Dam right Cap is back. Cap was back when Steve Rogers handed that shield to Sam Wilson!

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Priyanka Chopra’s Foot in Mouth Problem

So, what mosque let your dad sing in it? LOL. Couldn’t you refine your lie and just say growing up in India around Muslims gave you a good sense of the religion? Check yourself woman.
The only thing that’s even close to singing in the mosque is a call to the daily prayer and anyone who has been around any mosque will confirm it. #facts
This woman keeps putting her foot in her mouth and people still keep giving her a platform. I wonder why.

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Not My Pride

I shouldn’t have to write about this. I shouldn’t have to say that a guy who has a pending sexual harassment case against him should not be winning any awards. I shouldn’t have to say that he should not be acknowledged for anything until he is absolutely cleared from all of his allegations in all courts of law and we are completely sure that he did not commit the crimes he is accused of. Which, if I have to give my opinion, he seems pretty guilty of.
Just yesterday I wrote about the resilience of my people, I wrote about the greatness of our ancestors. I remember hearing stories from men and women who lived through those days that we are celebrating right now.
What has always struck me as the bravest and beautiful is the resilience and greatness of the women of Pakistan. The sacrifices they made during the independence of Pakistan are undeniable. Not just that they are undeniable, they are unmatched. The bravery, the heroism isn’t talked about but if we talk to these women and look at the history they held everyone together they helped the movement and the history in a way that men alone could have never been able to.
Today giving a man who disrespects women and treats them the way he has been accused of treating them is disrespecting the women of our nation. It’s disrespect for the memory of our ancestors and the sacrifices of all the mothers and daughters of the nation.
Shame on those who made this horrific decision.

#notmystar #notmyhero #sexualharrasment #cancelalizafar #pakistanday #ourlegacy #femaleheroes #respectwomen #wedeservebetter #tryharder #notokay #raiseyourvoice #speakup #womenmatter #strongertogether #professionalscribbler #towhomitmayconcern

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23rd March: Pakistan Resolution

This is how we celebrated pakistan day. We dressed up in green outfits. Flags. Songs, smiling faces. Photo shoots. My kids know so much about who and what pakistan is and why it was created. They have a sense of purpose.
Are you rolling your eyes yet? Listen, we talked about it. I told them what happened today. I should have bought some flags and maybe taken them some place.
Reading up on history seemed more important. Did they gain a sense of purpose and understand who they are and who we are as a Pakistani people? Too soon to say.
Right now they’re fighting over legos.
What’s important is that we let our kids know everyday that we belong to some place that’s important. Some place thats magical in its ability to never give up and survive the most worst of odds.


Make them believe they come from generations of resilient and headstrong people. You don’t have to pick just one day to do that.

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Look Away

Then I realized what had bothered me about it. These are the most watched shows in Pakistan. The country where it’s safe to assume that there’s no sex ed until your wedding night and even after you stumble the first-time  because who is going to tell you if you’re getting it right?

Look away boys and girls because I’m about to talk about sex. Yes, the real kind that no one wants to talk about. Not the kind that they show on tv. Well  I will start with the kind that they show on TV. I was watching Netflix the other day and I realized that the top 10 shows in Pakistan had a lot of explicit  sexual content.

That’s nothing new. Why did that bother me? Some of them are good shows with really good storylines. The sex in those shows is not misplaced.

And let’s be real  in many cases after being married for 23 years I AM wondering “is that how it’s done?” You think I’m exaggerating but I’m not. Some of those moves are new to me or maybe I’m just old. Or maybe that’s not how real life works.

Back to actual life, is that how we want an entire generation to learn about sex? From tv shows? Where people burst into bedrooms ripping each other’s clothes off? Real talk, do people do that in real life or no? Cause that bumping and stumbling onto furniture doesn’t seem natural and super painful.  I mean did you walk all the way home doing that? Are we  driving? Walking? What was the situation there all the way to that door? Practically,  I’m curious. Oh, and if I’m talking and someone kisses me mid sentence, I GUARANTEE you, you will get slapped. Do. Not. interrupt. Me. It’s not cute. Its rude as hell. Know your manners. Who does these things and who are these humans who encourage these insane behaviors?

Asking for a friend.

This is why fathers need to sit down with their sons and mothers with daughters to teach them about these things and then they need to do a switcheroo  because mothers have a Woman’s perspective for the boys and vice versa.

Please, don’t let TV teach your kids.

I mean you’re watching it, just imagine if you were basing your own life on television, right? That would be insane. For our children that’s all they have since we are not giving them any better, and they are  in for a rude awakening.

Their worlds are not about to be rocked, that’s for sure. Or they are, and not in a good way.

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Happy Birthday Femmerang

It’s been a year. A whole year. We started right along with the pandemic. We had everything to lose. I can assure you that we lost a lot along the way. However, what we gained has been immeasurable.
We now know that loss doesn’t always mean failure. What we have gained along the way has been priceless. Despite the difficulties, we have come out on the other side of this year.
Nothing but gratitude and love for everyone who has stood beside us.

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Narcissism For The Win

Has everyone freakin lost their minds? This woman? THIS WOMAN is allowed to represent women by speaking at a woman’s March event? Let me explain to you that I’m not ranting as an enraged Johnny Depp fan. I’m ranting as a coach, councilor and journalist who sees this kind of narcissist abusive behavior all the time.


Normally I don’t get involved or comment on celebs personal lives because they’re always doing something shady. But this one matters to us folk too. Plus it’s a little bit about Depp.I am human after all.
I’m not someone who questions a woman when she says she’s been abused. However, our world surely does. They ask questions like, what did she do? How did she act around him to make him angry enough that he had to get violent? Must have been her fault. Again this is not real life. This is Hollywood so the brunt of it was faced by the man and he basically lost everything in an instant and she became the hero. Some of us knew all along that it was all her, but did it matter? Did it stop us from blaming him? Not really. He was the man and in this case that was enough.


Now here’s where it’s harmful other than just personally for him. What I’ve learn of her personality is that she’s a huge narcissist. She wants the lime light for the fun. She wants people to love her. She probably wanted her husband to love her too. But she probably wanted him to love him exactly the way she wanted it. Not any differently. If he did it differently she wouldn’t approve of it. Narcissist like to control everything.
They are master planners, controllers-and gas lighters. To keep an intelligent person in line you need to gaslight them so they keep second guessing themselves. They are not expecting that someone who cares about them would be lying to them or would be trying to trick them so they believe it. Or they just stay very confused.
Of course if you do figure everything out and you call them out on it then there’s that physical drama that no one wants to start because at the end even if you’re the victim its somehow you’re own fault.
A person like that, their objective becomes then to ruin their victims life. They want to ruin their reputation by talking about them in public. They portray them as weak and unstable. And Amber Heard was able to do it in such a beautiful way it’s amazing. Sense the sarcasm, please.
The reason I find these places giving her a platform so problematic is that, 1: she will use it farther to abuse her victim in any way that she can and better herself as she sees fit.
2: since she is a narcissist she will not care how she destroys other women in the path to her success. And just by hiring her the marginalized women who are suffering will suffer more. If she was heard it was only because she is famous. Like I said before, most women get questioned and are denied the right to speak if something like this happens to them. What would happen now while this case is fresh in everyone’s mind, when she’s always in the public eye? People who know the truth will take women coming out with their genuine stories with a complete lack of trust.
These women now will think long and hard. She and more so, people who have supported her have set us back a few decades if not more. I hope she gets a taste of her own medicine somewhat and at least gets fired from her upcoming films.
She surely has much to lose still but what we have lost by making her a hero will take a long time to regain.

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