So, what mosque let your dad sing in it? LOL. Couldn’t you refine your lie and just say growing up in India around Muslims gave you a good sense of the religion? Check yourself woman.
The only thing that’s even close to singing in the mosque is a call to the daily prayer and anyone who has been around any mosque will confirm it. #facts
This woman keeps putting her foot in her mouth and people still keep giving her a platform. I wonder why.
I shouldn’t have to write about this. I shouldn’t have to say that a guy who has a pending sexual harassment case against him should not be winning any awards. I shouldn’t have to say that he should not be acknowledged for anything until he is absolutely cleared from all of his allegations in all courts of law and we are completely sure that he did not commit the crimes he is accused of. Which, if I have to give my opinion, he seems pretty guilty of.
Just yesterday I wrote about the resilience of my people, I wrote about the greatness of our ancestors. I remember hearing stories from men and women who lived through those days that we are celebrating right now.
What has always struck me as the bravest and beautiful is the resilience and greatness of the women of Pakistan. The sacrifices they made during the independence of Pakistan are undeniable. Not just that they are undeniable, they are unmatched. The bravery, the heroism isn’t talked about but if we talk to these women and look at the history they held everyone together they helped the movement and the history in a way that men alone could have never been able to.
Today giving a man who disrespects women and treats them the way he has been accused of treating them is disrespecting the women of our nation. It’s disrespect for the memory of our ancestors and the sacrifices of all the mothers and daughters of the nation.
Shame on those who made this horrific decision.
This is how we celebrated pakistan day. We dressed up in green outfits. Flags. Songs, smiling faces. Photo shoots. My kids know so much about who and what pakistan is and why it was created. They have a sense of purpose.
Are you rolling your eyes yet? Listen, we talked about it. I told them what happened today. I should have bought some flags and maybe taken them some place.
Reading up on history seemed more important. Did they gain a sense of purpose and understand who they are and who we are as a Pakistani people? Too soon to say.
Right now they’re fighting over legos.
What’s important is that we let our kids know everyday that we belong to some place that’s important. Some place thats magical in its ability to never give up and survive the most worst of odds.
Make them believe they come from generations of resilient and headstrong people. You don’t have to pick just one day to do that.
This is dude cannot catch a break. I feel you my man. Seriously though, is there something in the cosmos’s or what? Sheesh. Hope things get better for him.
Then I realized what had bothered me about it. These are the most watched shows in Pakistan. The country where it’s safe to assume that there’s no sex ed until your wedding night and even after you stumble the first-time because who is going to tell you if you’re getting it right?
Look away boys and girls because I’m about to talk about sex. Yes, the real kind that no one wants to talk about. Not the kind that they show on tv. Well I will start with the kind that they show on TV. I was watching Netflix the other day and I realized that the top 10 shows in Pakistan had a lot of explicit sexual content.
That’s nothing new. Why did that bother me? Some of them are good shows with really good storylines. The sex in those shows is not misplaced.
And let’s be real in many cases after being married for 23 years I AM wondering “is that how it’s done?” You think I’m exaggerating but I’m not. Some of those moves are new to me or maybe I’m just old. Or maybe that’s not how real life works.
Back to actual life, is that how we want an entire generation to learn about sex? From tv shows? Where people burst into bedrooms ripping each other’s clothes off? Real talk, do people do that in real life or no? Cause that bumping and stumbling onto furniture doesn’t seem natural and super painful. I mean did you walk all the way home doing that? Are we driving? Walking? What was the situation there all the way to that door? Practically, I’m curious. Oh, and if I’m talking and someone kisses me mid sentence, I GUARANTEE you, you will get slapped. Do. Not. interrupt. Me. It’s not cute. Its rude as hell. Know your manners. Who does these things and who are these humans who encourage these insane behaviors?
Asking for a friend.
This is why fathers need to sit down with their sons and mothers with daughters to teach them about these things and then they need to do a switcheroo because mothers have a Woman’s perspective for the boys and vice versa.
Please, don’t let TV teach your kids.
I mean you’re watching it, just imagine if you were basing your own life on television, right? That would be insane. For our children that’s all they have since we are not giving them any better, and they are in for a rude awakening.
Their worlds are not about to be rocked, that’s for sure. Or they are, and not in a good way.
letstalk #letstalkaboutsex #teenagesex #sexed #educate #educatetheyoung #educateyourself #wewanttoknow #information #infomatters #letslearn #learntogether #professionalscribbler #towhomitmayconcern
It’s been a year. A whole year. We started right along with the pandemic. We had everything to lose. I can assure you that we lost a lot along the way. However, what we gained has been immeasurable.
We now know that loss doesn’t always mean failure. What we have gained along the way has been priceless. Despite the difficulties, we have come out on the other side of this year.
Nothing but gratitude and love for everyone who has stood beside us.
Has everyone freakin lost their minds? This woman? THIS WOMAN is allowed to represent women by speaking at a woman’s March event? Let me explain to you that I’m not ranting as an enraged Johnny Depp fan. I’m ranting as a coach, councilor and journalist who sees this kind of narcissist abusive behavior all the time.
Normally I don’t get involved or comment on celebs personal lives because they’re always doing something shady. But this one matters to us folk too. Plus it’s a little bit about Depp.I am human after all.
I’m not someone who questions a woman when she says she’s been abused. However, our world surely does. They ask questions like, what did she do? How did she act around him to make him angry enough that he had to get violent? Must have been her fault. Again this is not real life. This is Hollywood so the brunt of it was faced by the man and he basically lost everything in an instant and she became the hero. Some of us knew all along that it was all her, but did it matter? Did it stop us from blaming him? Not really. He was the man and in this case that was enough.
Now here’s where it’s harmful other than just personally for him. What I’ve learn of her personality is that she’s a huge narcissist. She wants the lime light for the fun. She wants people to love her. She probably wanted her husband to love her too. But she probably wanted him to love him exactly the way she wanted it. Not any differently. If he did it differently she wouldn’t approve of it. Narcissist like to control everything.
They are master planners, controllers-and gas lighters. To keep an intelligent person in line you need to gaslight them so they keep second guessing themselves. They are not expecting that someone who cares about them would be lying to them or would be trying to trick them so they believe it. Or they just stay very confused.
Of course if you do figure everything out and you call them out on it then there’s that physical drama that no one wants to start because at the end even if you’re the victim its somehow you’re own fault.
A person like that, their objective becomes then to ruin their victims life. They want to ruin their reputation by talking about them in public. They portray them as weak and unstable. And Amber Heard was able to do it in such a beautiful way it’s amazing. Sense the sarcasm, please.
The reason I find these places giving her a platform so problematic is that, 1: she will use it farther to abuse her victim in any way that she can and better herself as she sees fit.
2: since she is a narcissist she will not care how she destroys other women in the path to her success. And just by hiring her the marginalized women who are suffering will suffer more. If she was heard it was only because she is famous. Like I said before, most women get questioned and are denied the right to speak if something like this happens to them. What would happen now while this case is fresh in everyone’s mind, when she’s always in the public eye? People who know the truth will take women coming out with their genuine stories with a complete lack of trust.
These women now will think long and hard. She and more so, people who have supported her have set us back a few decades if not more. I hope she gets a taste of her own medicine somewhat and at least gets fired from her upcoming films.
She surely has much to lose still but what we have lost by making her a hero will take a long time to regain.
#justiceforjohnnydepp #johnnydeservesbetter #wealldeservebetter #womenseservebetter #sheisnotavictim #stoptheinsanity #justicefordepp #neverunderestimateanarcisist #professionalscribbler #towhomitmayconcern
I worry about the world in which I’m raising my children. I fear that it’s way messed up. I mean yeah, it’s violent and there’s death and despair all around us but I’m worried about something far worse. I’m worried about them becoming pretentious assholes. Honestly, they are way more likely to turn into entitled brats than they are mass murderers. If I’m being honest with myself and all of you, they are well on their way.
Let me be frank; I haven’t helped much by way of the company we keep, save a few good people. I cant even count the amount of times I have had people come into my house look around and ask, “oh you bought the house as soon as you moved here?” as I say “nope we’re renting” I get this look that says it all. That look of, “awww, I’m sorry you’re poor. I guess we will hang out with you out of necessity or work responsibilities.” I kid you not when I tell you that everyone I have recently met has mentioned how many properties they own and how many spots they have vacationed at, in our first meeting. Not just them, their littlest kids of under 10 years old will give you that information as though their lives depend on it.
They do at least feel as though their importance to others or place in the world does depend on what they own. As for my kids they are entitled enough and think the world is at their feet without any of that information so I’ll keep it from them for as long as I possibly can. Don’t be fooled by this last sentence though, we are not poor but we’re not rich either. At least not in the traditional sense. What does rich look like anyway? Is it owning land? Houses? Cars? Do I have those? Yes. Do I own all of them or some of them? You will never know because I hope you are not here because of any of that. I hope you are here because I am just THAT amazing. No, but seriously. I would rather have an abundant amount of eclairs than cars. You cant eat cars when you’re emotionally drained. That was an inside joke. If you got it, you got it. If not…I apologize.
In all seriousness though, where did we go wrong that we started telling tiny humans that their worth is counted in big mansions. How little we must make them feel to tell them they are nothing without the help of stuff that is way bigger than them. The material that they can’t comprehend and in their tiny heads cant even began to imagine how to gather. All of it must make them feel so inadequate so unfit to be anything but not good enough.
Clearly we have never felt good enough ourselves to need the aid of material so heavily. Clearly our morals, our values, our personality, our character was never good enough for us so we counted our worth in quantifiable objects. Maybe we were never told that we have all the character and all the valuable attributes that are needed to be enough. Perhaps a change in attitude, perhaps an overhaul in society and a deeper emphasis on character of a person rather than their bank account is needed?
The question still remains, how do I protect my children from it? The answer is both extremely simple and increasingly difficult. I make them sure of their abilities. I tell them that who they are is not about what they own. Who they are is not even about what they know, I have seen many knowledgeable men and women become assholes just because they have more information compared to others. No,. I tell them they will achieve true greatness when they care about none of those things.
I tell them their hard work will matter when they work hard because they enjoy doing the work. I want them to understand that knowledge will matter if they are enjoying acquiring it and not getting it because they want to hold it over others. I tell them being better will actually be better if its to help others and not just themselves.
You know the most interesting part of it all? You cant TELL children anything. So, when I say I tell them I mean I’m learning to live it myself. In other words the only way to save my kids from not becoming assholes is for me to not be one myself. And those of you who know me know very well that I’ve got a long way to go.
I hear the first step to solving one’s problems is admitting that you have one. I guess I’ve got that going for me.
So…good for me?
If only people knew the kinds of things that go through our heads on a daily basis. If only people knew the kinds unfinished stories we have hidden from the world that we are afraid to reveal on the account of, we don’t want to be called insane. If only people knew…maybe someday they will find out. I don’t plan on sitting on all those stories forever.
Get ready world, you haven’t read enough of my insanity still.
For all my beautiful judgy friends and family who usual come at me with comments like “ but kids are great” and “you of all people shouldn’t be belittling” our children. Let me just tell you, children are HARD. They are freakin precious but they are little pricks. I wouldn’t trade them for the world but that doesn’t mean they’re not driving us straight up crazy.
To Whom It May Concern 